Tuesday, June 20, 2017
When you tell someone I love you, what exactly are you saying? Do you even really know? I realize that the word love can imply a different meaning for each one of us. I just looked at the definition of the word love and it says; An intense affectionate concern for another person. So using this definition of love let us take a closer look at how we show our love to others. It has been my experience to see that many folks are willing to show their love for another only as long as the other person is doing something for them. And the very moment this person stops giving them what they want look out! Here comes the old I'm teed off now and instead of loving you I choose to withhold my love until you go back to doing whatever it is I think you should be doing for me. Human nature almost demands that others give us something if they truly want us to love them. We can deny that fact but it still doesn't change anything.I suppose that is why it seems so easy for someone to withhold their love from others. We do it to each other all the time and usually don't even realize it. Take a man and his wife who have just had a blowup about some matter and are really angry with each other. Just when they need to show each other the most love is when they instead choose to withhold it from each other. The wife says you are sleeping on the sofa, and the husband says that's fine, now you can go out in the morning and scrape the ice off your windshields yourself. Just don't expect me to do anything nice for you! Just an example of withholding one's love. Doesn't make a lot of sense to me but then again that's just me. Just seems to me that there is way too much of the "conditional" love and not near enough of the "unconditional" love in our lives. I know it's easy to love someone while they are fulfilling your needs and doing what you want them to do. But learning to love others all the time can be a little more testing. May all of us try just a tad bit harder to allow our love to flow freely to others at all times. In my humble opinion withholding love from another for any reason is not a good idea and will only serve to keep us chained to a "selfish" kind of love. Give love, accept love, be love, for that is truly all any of us are!