Tuesday, September 26, 2017
I was blessed to wake up to another very beautiful day this morning. And as usual before getting out of bed to begin my day I began to count my blessings in this life. And fortunately I have many to be thankful for! While drinking my first cup of coffee I went online to check out the FaceBook page and see what was happening on social media. And guess what? As usual I saw so much anger, so much derision, so much misunderstanding, way too much drama, and yes, even a little hatred being spewed out for all to see. You know, just the usual stuff! What a shame I thought to myself. People all over the world waking up to quickly share all the B/S and drama they possibly can. Just to express an opinion. Getting so worked up over stuff that really isn't even that important, at least to me it's not that important. Sometimes I just don't get it! I just wondered once again to myself what would happen if every single one of us would take the energy we expend on trying to get others to see our point of view and instead focus that energy on just loving everybody no matter their belief. Just for one single day, take all one's love and peace and share it with everybody. I'm sure not trying to say I have the solutions of bringing about the changes necessary for not only our country but the entire world, but I do firmly believe that to be the change we wish to see we must become that change in our own lives first.So today I am going about things in my usual manner. And that is to show as much love to everyone as I possibly can. And instead of complaining about anyone else and what they are doing, I am going to just accept them as a reflection of myself and wish them well. Do I honestly believe this will cure the world's ills of today? No I sure don't. But at least it won't hurt any I hope. If you decide to spend the day being caught up in all the drama complaining about this or that, all I would say to you is Ok I wish you the best and do hope it brings you peace and understanding. I gladly accept that your "Path" is "right" for you even if I may not understand it. And all I ask of you is to accept me and allow me to walk my path without condemning me. My sincere hope is that your day will be filled with much love, peace, and joy in whatever it is you decide to do. Be good to yourself and even better to others if you can. Blessings to all of you beautiful people.
Monday, September 11, 2017
Once again I find myself sitting on the front porch just enjoying the beautiful afternoon. Since I have made myself a promise to get back to just "BEING" this seems to be one of my favorite spots. This past couple of years, especially the last three months or so, I have made a sincere attempt to further distancing myself from all the illusions of this 3D existence. I rarely turn on the news, I don't get overly excited at all the B/S going on all around me, and I don't get caught up in other people's drama. Today I'd like to share with you a story about the Bradford Pear trees that sit in my front yard. When this home was built in 2006 there were two of these trees which sat by side. They were very small saplings and were staked to a rod to help them to grow straight. I've always loved these trees. They come into bloom in the springtime and are filled with lots of beautiful white blooms. After the blooming period the leaves turn a beautiful dark green color. They stay green until the fall season then they turn brown and fall to the earth and once again begin the cycle of life. Now I must admit that there are times when I still tend to take for granted Mother Nature and all Her glory! But here lately I find myself more attuned to all the life around me. I have gone back to my "old self" and even started to once again talk to the plants, the trees, the hummingbirds, the squirrels, and all the other living things. Back now to this one tree in particular. Back in 2009 I think it was, we were hit by a really severe ice storm. Major damages all around. The weight of the ice on many trees became unbearable and the limbs snapped and fell to the ground. It was an eerie night as I lay in bed and heard the cracking and popping of tree limbs coming down throughout the neighborhood. The next morning I surveyed the damage and noted several trees in my back yard had fallen completely down. But as I looked at the front yard those two Bradford Pears were still standing. However the one on the left had about one third of its limbs caked with ice and it had snapped those limbs in half. It had also been bent to the left quite a bit and no longer stood straight up. The other tree looked to be untouched by the storm. After the storm finally cleared and it was time for the cleanup, I did notice that the one tree had lost its shape and I had to cut away the broken limbs and I tried to straighten it up best that I could. I got to admit it did look little weary and abused. Come spring while its yard mate looked so good blooming, this other one did bloom but still leaned to the left and looked traumatized on the one side. But it kept on growing and looking better and better each year. Today as I sat out here and talk with these two trees, I couldn't help but see that they look almost identical. Both are healthy looking and very full of dark green leaves. Other than the small lean to the left I'd say they look the same. But I think I feel a special connection to the one that is bent a little. Because like it my life too has been hit by several "storms" and I too have been knocked to the ground by a very heavy load on my "limbs". And I've been down and not looking so great for a while as i struggled to stand back up straight. I too have been traumatized a time or two. But I have managed to keep on growing. I may still be "bent" a little bit but you know what? That's okay, it gives me character. But you know, none of this really matters. In this world of illusion I know I am the tree, I am the plant, I am the hummingbird, I am the squirrel. I AM THAT WHICH IS THE I AM. God, I just love this tree!
Thursday, August 10, 2017
Many of us use the phrase I love you many,many times during the course of our day. But how many of those times are we "feeling" what we are saying, and how many times are we just repeating a phrase we have grown accustomed to? Often times I wonder about this. I realize that the word love may mean different things to each one of us. But here is something I have thought about for many, many years now. Sad to say but it does seem to me that most of the people who say I love you are really saying I will love you as long as you continue to do or be something I think I need in my life. And by this I don't mean just giving material things but things also like compliments, a helping hand, or anything else that may make them feel good about themselves. But then, the minute you stop doing any of the things they "need", they no longer have any desire to be around you or to even remain a friend. I see it happen to people all the time. Now, please don't get me wrong, if that is the only way they can define love then who am I to expect them to behave any differently. It may be the only kind of love they are able to give. As for myself when I say I love you that means I love you simply because you are a human being who is a part of myself, a mere reflection of myself. I truly wish there was more of this kind of love going around. This is just one reason why at times I feel I have been misplaced and thrown into a world where I don't belong. But at the same time I know I am always right where I am meant to be. Another paradox of the human life of illusion I suppose! I am tired, I am a little weary, I am ready to go back home! Back home, where all is pure unconditional love! But I know I must remain until that time has come. So in the meanwhile I sure hope to continue to be able to say I love you and really feel the essence of pure love when I do say it. May that little phrase never, never become just something I say without the true meaning behind it. I am at peace even in a world where it seems that hatred, violence, egotism, greed, and so much B/S is the norm. But yet, I keep on dreaming and I can truly say from ,my heart that I love you! May your day be richly blessed. Be good to yourself and even better to others!
Thursday, July 6, 2017
I recently asked a young friend of mine what she thought was something all of us could do to help make this world a better place for all of us. She was quick to reply that she felt we should stop assuming things And I have to agree with her on that one. Because often times assuming something creates all kind of trouble and hardships. Hurt feelings, misunderstandings, even hatred and resentment at times. Assumption can ruin a relationship in the wink of an eye it seems. Let's take a quick look at how assuming things may cause some of these ills between two friends say, or maybe between lovers, neighbors, or anyone else we share our lives with. Here's a quick example of what I am talking about. Let's say a wife calls her husband at work to see what time he is going to be home for dinner. During the conversation she tells him they are out of milk. Having told him that she now assumes he will stop at the market on the way home and pick some up. But he doesn't do it. Now once home the wife asks; "Where's the milk?" "I didn't know you wanted me to get any" he replies. "Well, I told you we were out so I thought you'd be good enough to stop and get some." "Sorry" he replies. But by now the wife is upset and says something like "If you would listen more closely to me when I'm talking I wouldn't always have to ask you to do things for me. You could try doing things that way for a change instead of always only thinking of yourself!" Now that she has managed to get herself all worked up the husband now begins to take offense to some of the things she is saying. So now he becomes angry. Then he yells at her; "What's for dinner? I'm starving!" "Well," she says; We were going to have chicken and mashed potatoes and gravy but since I don't have any milk I may just not cook anything!" Angrily the husband slams the door as he leaves the house to go pick up the damned milk at the corner grocery. Upon returning he sets the milk down on the table and says; "Ok Are you happy now?" The wife looks at the milk and says; "This isn't the kind of milk we use." He replies;"Well, Why in the hell didn't you tell me what kind to get?" Her reply?;"Well, I assumed you knew the right kind to get!" Now both of them, angry and frustrated, just go on to bed. Well, actually he is going to sleep on the sofa tonight! And neither one of them wound up getting any dinner at all! And you know how one feels when they go to bed angry? Not very good I imagine. Now mind you, this is just one quick example of what can happen when we assume anything. Especially when we assume what someone else is thinking or what their actions really imply. I have heard it put this way; When you assume you make an ASS(out of) U and ME. I think my young friend is right on. We all need to stop assuming anything. That will be a good start of building better relationships anyway.
Tuesday, June 20, 2017
When you tell someone I love you, what exactly are you saying? Do you even really know? I realize that the word love can imply a different meaning for each one of us. I just looked at the definition of the word love and it says; An intense affectionate concern for another person. So using this definition of love let us take a closer look at how we show our love to others. It has been my experience to see that many folks are willing to show their love for another only as long as the other person is doing something for them. And the very moment this person stops giving them what they want look out! Here comes the old I'm teed off now and instead of loving you I choose to withhold my love until you go back to doing whatever it is I think you should be doing for me. Human nature almost demands that others give us something if they truly want us to love them. We can deny that fact but it still doesn't change anything.I suppose that is why it seems so easy for someone to withhold their love from others. We do it to each other all the time and usually don't even realize it. Take a man and his wife who have just had a blowup about some matter and are really angry with each other. Just when they need to show each other the most love is when they instead choose to withhold it from each other. The wife says you are sleeping on the sofa, and the husband says that's fine, now you can go out in the morning and scrape the ice off your windshields yourself. Just don't expect me to do anything nice for you! Just an example of withholding one's love. Doesn't make a lot of sense to me but then again that's just me. Just seems to me that there is way too much of the "conditional" love and not near enough of the "unconditional" love in our lives. I know it's easy to love someone while they are fulfilling your needs and doing what you want them to do. But learning to love others all the time can be a little more testing. May all of us try just a tad bit harder to allow our love to flow freely to others at all times. In my humble opinion withholding love from another for any reason is not a good idea and will only serve to keep us chained to a "selfish" kind of love. Give love, accept love, be love, for that is truly all any of us are!
Saturday, May 27, 2017
Of all the trips I have ever been on the one I detest the most is the guilt trip. I am continually amazed at the times my fellow human beings use the old ploy of trying to make one feel guilty so they can get whatever it is they think they want. As a young man I used that ploy myself at times since it seemed to work so good. But at that early age I had not yet come to realize that making anyone feel guilty about anything was one of the most selfish acts I could have done. Through the years as I have watched human nature at work I began to see how often this ploy was being used time and time again. I saw parents using it on their children, kids using it on their parents, friends using it on their friends, and on and on. At times the one using these tactics are quite good at hiding the real meaning of their ways. Other times it just stands out like a sore thumb. The guilt implied can be either subtle or downright rude! Personally, I feel using guilt trips on another human being is totally uncalled for and also very degrading to the one being made to feel guilty. But because it does seem to work so good I suppose people will continue to use it.I am so happy that long ago I saw how others tried to manipulate others with guilt and I made a vow to myself to never allow that to happen to me again. And through the years I have had ample opportunity to test myself on this. There are still times when the guilt implied is so subtle I have to look really close but I have gotten pretty good at sniffing it out. Guilt is one of the most devastating emotions one can carry around. Or at least that is the way I see it. Now I will be the first to say that I do stupid stuff all the time and do things I am not so proud of. But still, I absolute refuse to allow anybody to make me feel guilty. Hopefully you are not one of those people who do allow others to make you feel guilty about anything. But I think it is always a good idea to be more aware of those in your life who repeatedly use the old guilt trip thing on you to manipulate your actions. And take a close look at yourself to make sure you are not doing the same thing to someone else. Life, being the mirror it is, may just show you the reflection of yourself using some of that "Emotional Blackmail" on another. May your life be guilt free from now on! Be good to yourself and even better to others!