WHY DO WE HURT THOSE WE LOVE?

I sure hope you have an answer for that question cause I sure dont. I am continually amazed at the hurt I see others intentionally inflict upon others for no reason whatsoever. Most of the time i see that the one doing the hurtful things are the ones who have the "least" reason to do so. Usually it because of something that is bothering that person and they dont have the guts to face up to it and try to fix themselves so they instead turn around and try to inflict pain on someone who truly loves them simply because if they are miserable then they want someone else to be equally miserable. And it seems to me the more someone does that just shows how insecure they truly are on the inside. Most of them will put up a stoic front and pretend to be the one in "charge" of things and they are well versed in tring to turn everything around on the one they are trying to punish. And this person who is receiving the brunt of this negativity usually has no idea where all this ugliness is coming from. If only these people who insist on being hurtful to loved ones could see themselves through someone elses eyes instead of their own ego I believe they would be surprised at how all this makes them look to others. Guess what Im saying is that before one starts inflicting emotional pain on a loved one they should first take a long hard look at their own inner feelings and instead of being nasty to a human being work on aligning their actions with those of a peaceful loving nature. My hope for all o f you is that the ones you love are treating you with much love and respect in return. And for those poor souls who continue to inflict damage on their relationships with family and friends all I can say is I wish you the best and hope you can finally see the light really soon before your loved ones are gone forever.

MY FIRST LOVE

I dont exactly know why but recently I got to thinking about my childhood and all the fun things I was able to do. And yeah I had the same trials as any youngster growing up and I vividly remember those trials as well as all the good times. I was thining about my first "love". I was in the 3rd grade at Wingo elementry and was blessed to be in a class with the girl who became my first love. Her name was Brenda Gay Tarver. Her and her twin sister(in our class also) Linda Kay Tarver were always very popular with us boys. We all thought they were just so cute and I guess all o f us boys at one time or another tried to make one of the gorgeous twins our "girlfriend". Even tho this was such a long time ago and some of the memories are a little vague I do remember very well how great I felt when I found out that Gay "liked" me. So of course being the romantic guy I was a t 8 or 9 I immediately went to Gay and asked her to be my girlfriend. To my surprise she said ok I will. And really at that time in my life I was extremly shy around girls but it didnt stop me from feeling like a king knowing I had one of the cutest girls as my girl.And I remember sitting in the auditorium holding her hand while we were supposed to be watching a film of something I dont recall. I remember all the other guys looking at me and I knew they were jealous and I was loving every minute of it.I think Gay and I remained boy and girl friend for about a week. I do remember calling her at home and chatting with her trying all the time to keep my courage up. Now I cant really remember why she decided we were no longer good together(it was probably because some other boy had gotten her attention) but I was crushed. But only for a few days when I then went to Kay(the other twin) and asked her to be mine. She said ok! Wow! Now I dont think that relationship lasted over a day or 2 either but I had been successful in getting both of those girls to be my girlfriend for a little while!Then I think I managed to get along alone until the 4th grade. Our grade was going to have to take dance lessons in our music class. The teacher of our class-Mrs. Watkins I think it was- went down the rows of kids and let the girls pick out who they wanted as their dance partner. One of the first girls to choose was Kathy Henson who I had admired from afar cause I thought she was so pretty. But I didnt have the guts to let her know that. So when Mrs Watkins asked her who she wanted as a partner she replied "Ronnie McIntosh" and I was really stunned. Now you know I cant even remember much about the dance classes but I do remember Kathy. She only lived a few houses down from where I lived but somehow I never was able to muster up the courage to knock on her door. So our only "relationship" was that of dance partners for 1 semester.I sure wish I hadnt been so darned shy back in those days but what the heck--I remember my 1st love and all others very vividly. So whereever you are now Kay Gay and Kathy just remember I still love ya!

BLESSINGS

I was just thinking of how many blessings there are in my life at this moment. And then those too that have been enjoyed in the past. I really do feel that i am living some kind of a charmed life. Dont get me wrong, Ive had many many turbulent times in my life(most of which was brought about by my own decisions) but Ive always gotten through them and found myself on the other side a better man for it. At least that is the way I feel. Looking back there are several things Id love to be able to have a "redo" on but knowing thats impossibile Ill just be happy in knowing I made a lot of stupid decisions but was able to learn from them. I suppose the one main thing Id do different if I could would be to have taken better care of my physical body when I was young. Like most youngsters I didnht think Id ever make it to be 40 yrs old let alone to be going on 58.And I do suffer quite a bit of pain from abusing this body but it still works ok most of the time.But back to the blessings--this life is just full of them if we take the time to look. Most of us hurry through our days trying to make a living, trying to get through school, trying to raise our kids, etc etc and we dont even take a moment to be grateful for the blessings we take for granted every day.I know Im as guilty of this as a lot of folks are but at least I will remind myself of these blessings when I start to get down about anything. Of all the blessings family and friends will always be at the top of my list. So I thank each one of you beautiful people who share even a small part of your life with me. I am grateful for your friendship.I leave you now with wishes for a most wonderful weekend filled with lots of love peace and joy for all of you. May you all be safe and may your blessings be many!

REVENGE

I once read an old proverb,chinese I believe it was, that stated: The best revenge is living well! Since that time i have put a lot of thought inot that statement and Ive shared that wisdom with a few good friends and family. So tonite I wanted to share my thoughts with you ,my online friends who I love just a s dearlyas anyone else. I once believed that revenge was really a "bad" thing. I mean if somebody id something to me I didnt like then I was supposed to do something back to them that was even nastier than what they had done to me. Wow that didnt make much sense to me even as a youngster. I was more of the mind to just accept what somebody did and instead of getting even just go about my business as if it didnt bother me. Then as a young adult I learned about Karma and that satisified my hunger for revenge by just knowing that sometime in the future karma would dole out equal pain to those who had caused me pain. But even that didnt seem to fully satisfy my inner spirit. But after reading the aforementioned proverb at last I had found a way to forgive others and go on about my business of living well. If you dont believe this is the best revenge Id like to know what you feel is a better way. So to everybody who ever broke my heart, who took advantage of my giving nature, who borrowed money and convieniently forgot to pay me back, or tried to hurt me in any way I'd like for them to know that not only am I a better person for what they did to me but that I am more at peace with myself than ever before. I sincerely hold no grudges of any kind and if Ive ever done anyone wrong in any way I am very sorry and hope that you have or will forgive me in your own good time. I bless you all!

WHAT THE HECK IS A MYSTIC?

A mystic is not a mysterious peson but is one who has a deep, inner sense of life and of his(her)unity with the Whole.---Science of Mind Textbook pg. 327

FEAR

Fear is the greatest enemy of man(woman). It is impossible for a person to do their best if they are filled with anxiety(fear)---Ernest Holmes

If you have reached a point where the inner consciousness believes, then your word is simply an announcement of Reality!---Science of Mind Text


I sincerely wish for each of you a blessed weekend filled with much love, joy, and inner peace!

DIAMONDS

An old Chinese Proverb states that the diamond cannot be polished without friction, nor the man(woman) perfected without trials.
I truly believe that statement and I can attest that I still have a long ways to go before I am the polished diamond I strive to become. But thankfully life continues to give me plenty of trials to work on it. My hope for all of you is that your personal "diamond" has been polished enough that your trials will be few and far between!

LOVE BEFORE HOPE

"You must have love in your heart before you can hope."--Yoruba Proverb

Soul is the mirror of mind, for it reflects the forms of thought which are given it.--Science of Mind Textbook pg 633

Affirmation
All that I need, i have. The Infinite Presence, Intelligence, and Power is here waiting conscious recognition to reflect itself in my life as the total perfection I am.--Herracia Brewer

A MIRROR OF HEAVEN AND EARTH

From the text of Taoism comes the following quote which I truly love.
"The still mind.... is the mirror of heaven and earth..."
Also a quote today from the Science of Mind Textbook pg. 335
Evil is not an ultimate reality...it will disappear when everyone stops looking at it, or indulging in it.
My sincere wish for all of you this day is that you feel good, you have a quiet mind, and your week ahead will be filled with much love, truth, joy, and peace!