Friday, March 4, 2016
ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY & OWNING YOUR CHOICES
I have talked before about choosing the Path that leads back to yourself. Also that this path is the hardest one you will ever undertake. I know that many times in my life I have had to look at myself honestly and to tell you the truth, it hasn't been a real pleasant thing to do. And here is why I say that. We as human beings naturally like to think that we are always right and that if others can't see in the same way as we do then it is their fault and not ours. This being said I always try to look at myself as honestly as I can. But even then I am not always absolutely sure I've been totally honest with myself. And the reason for that is because my ego self wants to assure me that I am doing all the right things in my life. And if something comes along that creates strife in my life my ego then tries to tell me it is someone else's fault or maybe just bad luck. But I still try to learn each day and realize that I must listen to my Higher Self so that the ego doesn't keep me in the dark so to speak. I would like to give you an example of how sometimes our ego selves fool us into thinking we are looking at everything in the right way. Just say there is a married couple or two lovers who have been together for a while and say they truly love each other. They are happy and both of them have a nice job they love. Then one day one of the two gets an offer from their company they work for. And this offer is a big advancement for them and also pays a lot more money. A chance of a lifetime they seem to think. So this person goes home and tells their mate I have a new job offer with more pay, more perks, and a chance to move up on the company ladder of success. The one thing though is that in order to take this promotion they will have to move across the country and work from there. This means they will have to start over and make a life in a new place, After hearing this the other person says that they are perfectly happy where they are and doesn't wish to move. This creates a problem for them in a big way. Their dreams no longer are running in the same direction. After much thinking the one with the new job offer says that they are not going to miss this opportunity for advancement. They ask the other to please come with me and we will still be together. The other person is adamant and will not make the move. So the one leaving gets angry because they feel the other person is making them choose between their dreams or staying put right where they are. Then the other also gets angry because they don't want to move. And I can see how this can happen. The one choosing to leave tries to make the other one be at fault and blames them for having to choose. But in reality (as I see it) the one leaving has actually made themselves do the choosing and not the other person. After all it was they would had decided to make the move. And that in itself brought about the whole decision making process. But because they did not want to have to choose in the first place their ego self tries to console them by having them believe it was not their fault. The ego self defends every move one wants to make. And when things go awry as they often do the ego does not want to accept as fact that they are responsible for the outcome. This is what I mean when I say it is so difficult to look at ones self and be totally honest. It is so easy for our ego to "spin" things so that we are right. When we can learn to tell the difference between our ego and our Higher self I think we begin to be able to take a more truthful look at ourselves. And that still doesn't make it easy to stay on this path. Even though I try hard to stay on it I still get fooled many times by the ego. I'm sure I will always be a work in progress. But one thing I have learned is that I am okay with my mistakes in life just as long as I don't try to fool myself into thinking I am being totally honest with myself when I am not. This path that leads back to ones self can be so very tricky. But I feel it is worth trip if it helps us to see things in a different way. Because when we do we become less judgmental and more open to others paths. Life sure isn't always what it seems to be. I feel better about myself when I don't have to think I am right all the time. Seems kind of ironic that it has taken me to where I am so much more free when I can admit I am wrong. The ego has to work really hard to convince us we are always right, but it's much easier to be wrong. How's that for a paradox? Hope all of you can see what I am saying so that when you do get on that path leading back to yourself it will be a little easier to be honest with yourself. Once again I must remind you that this is only my "Truth". I share it with you and expect nothing. You may not agree with a word I've said and I can well understand that. After all, I could be totally "wrong". Thank goodness I have finally learned that I do not have to be "right". I leave all of you with thoughts of perfect love, peace, and joy. May your days be filled with love and the nights with restful sleep knowing you have done the best you can today.